
When a close friend or family member has suffered a major loss, finding the right words may seem impossible. One way to share your sincere support is through a letter. Many people find writing and reading comforting words is easier than speaking them.
How to Use This Sample

To download the sample letter of emotional support, click on the image. You can then open a pdf which you can download or print for personal use. If you have any trouble accessing the sample, the Guide to Adobe Printables may be helpful.
You can use the letter as-is, or it can be modified to fit your personal situation. To personalize the letter:
- Write a new greeting to open the letter.
- Sign your name at the end.
- Add a personal anecdote at the end of the first paragraph.
- Offer specific help such as bringing a meal, providing transportation for children, or running an errand.
What Is a Letter of Emotional Support?
Support can provide hope when someone you know and care about suffers a loss such as:
- Death of a loved one
- Divorce
- Loss of a job
- Major financial setback
- Death of a pet
- Diagnosis of debilitating illness
This kind of letter offers you the opportunity to express your care and concern. During these difficult times, people may not be emotionally available to talk in person or on the phone. They may also be overwhelmed with supportive friends dropping by. Sending a letter to a friend in need provides the chance for that person to hear your words when she's ready.
When to Send a Letter
Writing a letter of support can be viewed as a touching personal message or as an impersonal attempt to offer sympathy. Take into account the personality of the person receiving the letter. If you believe the letter will be a welcome show of support then it is appropriate to send a letter via email or standard post. There are many circumstances that justify sending a letter instead of visiting or calling.
- You live far away.
- You're unable to travel due to physical, financial, or work-related issues.
- You feel uncomfortable discussing emotions.
- Your friend has asked for time alone.
Keep in mind, a letter can accompany phone calls and visits. People dealing with difficult times in life often need ongoing support. Phone calls and visits, in the beginning, are standard. Sending a letter with words of comfort weeks or months after a loss can let a friend know your support continues.
Sending Support
Expressing care and concern for a loved one experiencing a difficult time provides hope and comfort. A letter of emotional support is an easy way to share your thoughts and feelings with someone in need of positivity.